Published on August 21st, 2010 | by Olumide17
When I First Fell In Love
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It had all the symptoms of a relationship that would last. I could not spend a whole day without seeing my lover and it was definitely the same with her. We did everything together- or virtually everything. She was always there for me. She shared my thoughts, knew my plans before I announced them, had all my business files, knew about my school work… she was the perfect girlfriend.
But our relationship was destined for an unexpected twist of disaster. I travelled with her to Lagos one fateful day and it hadn’t exactly been the best of days. The business deal we had gone for had gone really bad and we were both feeling very depressed. Could it be the frustration that hung in the atmosphere? Or the hunger resulting from that frustration? Or was it the exhaustion coming from hours of sitting through Lagos traffic that made me so, soo…
Some people have suggested that I wasn’t man enough. Others have said I must have been under the influence of dark magic. Till today, I don’t know how it happened, but one moment, she was in my arms and the next- she was gone. Kidnapped into the big world of Lagos crime. And that was the last I ever saw of her.
Today, it’s almost two years since she left and much has changed. There have been others, but none has been able to take her place. Today, I reflect on the feelings of numbness I had when I returned home alone that fateful evening. I could not cry. I wanted to curse but couldn’t find the words. Blaming God would have been a good option, but somehow I couldn’t bring myself to do it.
Just in case you are feeling my pain, let me assure you that the pain I felt (and the loss) was real. However before you shed a tear, I am not referring to any human being. I am referring to my first laptop. She was a beautiful black Acer computer and I had given her an African name that reflected my appreciation for her wonderful qualities (I won’t tell you). She knew all about me and was like an extension of my brain. And when she was stolen that day, I thought the world was going to come to an end. I had always relied on her so much that a part of me was truly gone, and there were no back-ups.
But guess what? I survived. And I have learnt some lessons:
1. Nothing, nothing, nothing should be so important to you as to become an idol. If you have something that can fetch you a heart attack when you lose it, then you should not have that thing in the first case. It’s an idol and a snare to you.
2. The best things in life are often not appreciated because we think we can never lose them. They are things like fresh air, good water, good friends… Why not take time to thank God for them?
3. There is nothing that is irreplaceable. Similarly, there is no one who is indispensable.
4. When it seems your blue skies are gone, the earth is just rotating. Soon, they will come back. Meaning that when you seem to be surrounded with adversity, pull through because one day, the tide will turn and your story will change!